!Hello.
My name is Lauren I'm 24 and my husband is 40.
WE met in California, just last year.
I was working in a chow hall, a place were military men and women eat.
He came in, and would always brighten my day.
I was having issues at home with abuse even though I was an adult on my own.
My parents always found ways to hurt me.
Then this guy, Luther would come and he would ask about things with me.
I had times where I would get black eyes from my dad and he asked about that.
He told me he could help me, cause he seen I was in pain.
He told me that he was an orthodox Jew...but converted. He grew up being catholic.
He invited me to Shabbat...or Shabbos at his Rabbis house. For some reason i went.
I felt ok, but eating makes me uncomfortable (Im recovering from bulimia)
Anyway, as the days went on me and him got closer and closer.
He said he had to go to San Diego soon for a schooling. he offered me to come, to help me get away from my family.
He asked me to marry him. I DID! We went to San Diego together and I knew there would me challenges because of his religion and my lack of faith.
While down in San diego, me not working was hard. Because we would only be there 6 weeks. There was no point in me finding a job.
So during the day while he would be at work.....I would go out in town and just enjoy San diego.
On weekends, he said we were to no going anywhere since its against Shabbos to use a car and electricity
He also said we were not allowed to watch TV. All he would do is lay in bed...and I would just sit there in the dark, cause he wanted to sleep since it was "day of rest" I got sick of it one saturday and said I was going to take a walk. I come home....and he is on his laptop jacking off to porn!!
I was so shocked.....and very very PISSED! "so this is what you do on "Shabbats" I CANT WATCH TV.................BUT YOU CAN DO THIS??
He said sorry, yes he is wrong. But he cant help it cause "im a man" is the excuse he gave
I kind of brushed it off and asked if i could turn the tube on, "not until sundown" that made me so angry!!
But, I just said ok...fine then can we at least talk?? He said nah...Im to tired....then he went back to sleep.
So i sat there and waited. He woke back up and wanted to have sex with me. I asked him please no because Im not going to be second to a computer! he laughed at me and said I should not be upset. But I was.....but then gave into him.
Then as the other weeks passed I have came on him doing that, looking at porn on several occasions. He would do it when he thought I was asleep
He wears dog tags......and I always hear them jiggling when he does his thing......and I see the lights from the lap top. I asked him one night when he came to me, I said "did you get your fill?" and again, I got laughed at.
I told him how much irt hurt me, how much it brought back abuse memories...but he told me I shouldn't be bothered because its not MY fault its HIS?
But it didnt make me fill better.
Then we got on the road after the 6 weeks.
We went from Ca to Ga.
And during the night he would get us separate rooms....in a hotel.
He would tell me if I needed anything to just come to his room.
I would and he would answer. But i could hear what he was watching...I could hear it was porno, cause I could hear the moaning of a women.
And now...we have a 2 story townhouse.....he gave me my own room.
And every night....he does it...every single freaking night!
He leaves me walking in the rain....I must walk to work because i"its shabbos and he cant drive" but I come home, he locked himself in his room to watch porn.
Please help me!
Im so hurt by this.
He expects me to convert to his Jewish faith...yet he sits there watching porn on a holly day.
He pays more attention to images on a screen then he does to me!
Just yesterday he did this again. He told me Saturday night he would take me to work on Sunday.
He knows I have to go in at 1130. It was getting on 11:15 and I knocked on his door. It was slightly open, so when I knocked it opened it more. He was looking at the screen with his mouth open and pants down. I said Luther……and I started crying because it tore my heart out. He got up, pulled his pants up and said he was sorry. I asked him…did you forget you have a wife again? I started running down the stairs and said Im going to be late….Im out of here! And I walked. I came home with him in his room again. I came in my room and slammed the door. A few min later he came out and asked if I wanted to talk. I asked him whats the point Luther? You call yourself such a holly person, and such a wonderful guy…yet you do this? He came up to me and sat on his knees. I was on my bed and he looked up at me. He said "lauren you knew from the start I do this, I just really like *ussy" and then he was laughing at that.
He then got up to sit next to me and he started to touch me. He started talking like my dad when he would abuse me (which gave me chills) he said things like "oh you need to be touched down there: "it will make you feel better" "come here, sit on my lap"
I pushed him off of me because I was getting a flashback…and he left my room and said "I do love you lauren" "im sorry" and now he is in his room again….and here I am….like I don't even exist
My name is Lauren I'm 24 and my husband is 40.
WE met in California, just last year.
I was working in a chow hall, a place were military men and women eat.
He came in, and would always brighten my day.
I was having issues at home with abuse even though I was an adult on my own.
My parents always found ways to hurt me.
Then this guy, Luther would come and he would ask about things with me.
I had times where I would get black eyes from my dad and he asked about that.
He told me he could help me, cause he seen I was in pain.
He told me that he was an orthodox Jew...but converted. He grew up being catholic.
He invited me to Shabbat...or Shabbos at his Rabbis house. For some reason i went.
I felt ok, but eating makes me uncomfortable (Im recovering from bulimia)
Anyway, as the days went on me and him got closer and closer.
He said he had to go to San Diego soon for a schooling. he offered me to come, to help me get away from my family.
He asked me to marry him. I DID! We went to San Diego together and I knew there would me challenges because of his religion and my lack of faith.
While down in San diego, me not working was hard. Because we would only be there 6 weeks. There was no point in me finding a job.
So during the day while he would be at work.....I would go out in town and just enjoy San diego.
On weekends, he said we were to no going anywhere since its against Shabbos to use a car and electricity
He also said we were not allowed to watch TV. All he would do is lay in bed...and I would just sit there in the dark, cause he wanted to sleep since it was "day of rest" I got sick of it one saturday and said I was going to take a walk. I come home....and he is on his laptop jacking off to porn!!
I was so shocked.....and very very PISSED! "so this is what you do on "Shabbats" I CANT WATCH TV.................BUT YOU CAN DO THIS??
He said sorry, yes he is wrong. But he cant help it cause "im a man" is the excuse he gave
I kind of brushed it off and asked if i could turn the tube on, "not until sundown" that made me so angry!!
But, I just said ok...fine then can we at least talk?? He said nah...Im to tired....then he went back to sleep.
So i sat there and waited. He woke back up and wanted to have sex with me. I asked him please no because Im not going to be second to a computer! he laughed at me and said I should not be upset. But I was.....but then gave into him.
Then as the other weeks passed I have came on him doing that, looking at porn on several occasions. He would do it when he thought I was asleep
He wears dog tags......and I always hear them jiggling when he does his thing......and I see the lights from the lap top. I asked him one night when he came to me, I said "did you get your fill?" and again, I got laughed at.
I told him how much irt hurt me, how much it brought back abuse memories...but he told me I shouldn't be bothered because its not MY fault its HIS?
But it didnt make me fill better.
Then we got on the road after the 6 weeks.
We went from Ca to Ga.
And during the night he would get us separate rooms....in a hotel.
He would tell me if I needed anything to just come to his room.
I would and he would answer. But i could hear what he was watching...I could hear it was porno, cause I could hear the moaning of a women.
And now...we have a 2 story townhouse.....he gave me my own room.
And every night....he does it...every single freaking night!
He leaves me walking in the rain....I must walk to work because i"its shabbos and he cant drive" but I come home, he locked himself in his room to watch porn.
Please help me!
Im so hurt by this.
He expects me to convert to his Jewish faith...yet he sits there watching porn on a holly day.
He pays more attention to images on a screen then he does to me!
Just yesterday he did this again. He told me Saturday night he would take me to work on Sunday.
He knows I have to go in at 1130. It was getting on 11:15 and I knocked on his door. It was slightly open, so when I knocked it opened it more. He was looking at the screen with his mouth open and pants down. I said Luther……and I started crying because it tore my heart out. He got up, pulled his pants up and said he was sorry. I asked him…did you forget you have a wife again? I started running down the stairs and said Im going to be late….Im out of here! And I walked. I came home with him in his room again. I came in my room and slammed the door. A few min later he came out and asked if I wanted to talk. I asked him whats the point Luther? You call yourself such a holly person, and such a wonderful guy…yet you do this? He came up to me and sat on his knees. I was on my bed and he looked up at me. He said "lauren you knew from the start I do this, I just really like *ussy" and then he was laughing at that.
He then got up to sit next to me and he started to touch me. He started talking like my dad when he would abuse me (which gave me chills) he said things like "oh you need to be touched down there: "it will make you feel better" "come here, sit on my lap"
I pushed him off of me because I was getting a flashback…and he left my room and said "I do love you lauren" "im sorry" and now he is in his room again….and here I am….like I don't even exist
